I am a parent council representative for my child's class. Once a month, parent council gets together to discuss anything from dress code to how to bring our community closer together. At one of the meetings, we were discussing nutrition and kid's lunches. Lots of us who pack lunches take tremendous pride in packing a very nutritionally sound lunch for our children. One of the women there mentioned how she helped in the classrooms and noticed that a particular lunch looked somewhat odd. A few weeks later, she had the same child over to play and realized that he had a swallowing problem which explained the contents of his lunchbox. She never judged the contents of the lunch box for a moment. I would imagine she would have felt terrible later if she had passed judgment on him or his parents.
I read a Facebook comment the other day that said "those of you who say God won't give you more than you can handle then I want their God". I thought about that statement a lot. Is God also being judged? The perception of some is that God will give you only what you can handle, some believe that God will give you more than you can handle and some feel that God doesn’t have anything to do with what’s coming your way. Some actually believe that you are the creator of your destiny and God is the all-encompassing being lovingly guiding you along the way.
I feel it is human nature to notice things and compare; she’s got this but I don’t or I have that and he doesn’t. After I lost Isabella, someone asked me if I found it hard to look at pregnant women or newborn babies. Although the thought of that had really never crossed my mind, I still answered "Isabella's loss for me may be the birth of a fourth child for someone else". In other words, for someone else the challenge may be in having more kids.
I feel that when a judgment is rendered, a boundary has been crossed. I love the phrase; “to each his own”. It’s so simple yet so true. If we all lived with an awareness of doing what is right for us without worrying about anyone else that would allow us to live with incredible inner peace.
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