tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-638484424643334779.post439392252971009669..comments2023-08-11T08:07:31.181-06:00Comments on Thoughts ... by Mary: Empathizing a little to much?Mary Salfihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17762133480555101628noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-638484424643334779.post-79266856116796316132011-05-25T12:38:10.713-06:002011-05-25T12:38:10.713-06:00Tracy,
I totally know what you're talking abo...Tracy,<br /><br />I totally know what you're talking about. I used to the same with anyone who complained about anything. If my friend was having issues with her husband, I'd figure out how to complain about mine, if she was having issues with work or kids or whatever, I would also find something to complain about too. I felt that I was making her feel better about her situation but the end result was I was feeling awful about nothing that warranted that. I had to work hard on changing that behavior.<br /><br />MaryMary Salfihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17762133480555101628noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-638484424643334779.post-47791451501424549182011-05-24T13:12:53.951-06:002011-05-24T13:12:53.951-06:00I tend to be a mood matcher and I am working on th...I tend to be a mood matcher and I am working on that. When my husband is irritable or down in some way I tend to lower my own mood in a ridiculous yet somewhat unconscious effort to be supportive or respectful. It doesn't do either of us any good, I know.<br /><br />I also stopped TV and newspapers for that reason. Even my once beloved NPR is too much for me. If I can't do anything about it it is not helpful for me to hear because it affects me too much.Tracy Stevenshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13955928532137913330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-638484424643334779.post-35535648264504882492011-05-23T13:24:22.133-06:002011-05-23T13:24:22.133-06:00Mary,
I do the same thing with TV. I quit watchin...Mary,<br /><br />I do the same thing with TV. I quit watching the news a long time ago. I used to read it online but lately I've found that totally drains me as well. <br /><br />I am trying to get back to that place of realizing that all is well because it is. My husband came home for lunch and told me about an issue he had at work. I think I would've gotten sucked right into the drama had I not written this post just a few hours ago. <br /><br />Thanks for reading and commenting! It's good to know I'm not alone.<br />MaryMary Salfihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17762133480555101628noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-638484424643334779.post-85746288346414333582011-05-23T12:26:20.254-06:002011-05-23T12:26:20.254-06:00This is such a challenge for me! I have of late r...This is such a challenge for me! I have of late really had to work on this very topic. Also (and this is ridiculous, but true), I find that I have to start limiting my TV "intake" because I empathize with the people on the shows and it sucks my energy right away. And I definitely ride my husband's career roller-coaster, too - the anxiety over what his schedule will be this month, what will the airline do next to change policy (not for the benefit of the pilots), will he pass his annual checkride exam, etc., etc. Thanks for posting!Mary C.noreply@blogger.com